Dear Birth Mother

Dear Birth Mother,

I want to first thank you so much for taking the time to read our story.   I am more than grateful for my own life as my birth mother chose my parents as my own 34 years ago.  I can not imagine the array of emotions that you must be feeling.  I can not honestly tell you what sets us apart from the thousands of other hopeful adopting parents.  We all can give your baby abundant love.  We can all give your baby material things.  We all desire the unconditional love from a bond between parent and child.

I was raised in the Mishawaka area by amazing, loving parents that are still alive today and have created a great family.  My parents adopted my younger brother Chad three years later and we were a middle class family, traveling on vacations and riding bikes around the neighborhood.  I had great relationships with my cousins and extended family members.  Six years ago, I lost my dearest grandmother to cancer and I miss her dearly.  I talk to my mom daily and my dad several times a week.  They told me early in my childhood that I was adopted and never treated me any differently.  I was loved beyond measure because my own mother could not have children of her own.  My parents waited nine years to become parents.  My father was a career policeman and my mother a stay at home mom.  She had fresh baked sweet nothings almost every day and she was always happy to see me when I got home from school.  They taught me to believe in myself and always achieve my dreams.  I started a part time job at a young age, worked through college with several part time jobs and graduated with honors. 

I became a Bilingual Kindergarten teacher after college in Houston, Texas, one of the poorest areas in the country.  I committed two years of my life to my students and was beyond blessed with their love and devotion to me!  They will soon be graduating high school and I couldn’t be more proud.  I am currently a medical device representative with a flexible schedule.  I hope to one day also be a stay at home mother to my family.

I met Jon Michael 5 years ago and we married on November 5, 2008.  We started our marriage with several misconceptions, but we are stronger and devoted to one another and our family.   He is my best friend, the person I want to share my greatest news with before anyone else.  He makes me feel safe and special.  I do not claim to have a perfect marriage, but as I am about to tell you, with our faith we will always be a family.

Jon and I are Catholics, he was born into the faith and I converted a year ago.  I grew up without any faith my entire life.  Two years ago, I embarked on a journey that led both of us to a beautiful and blessed life.  We have a community of supportive, loving, caring friends.  As I learned about my own fertility, I became even more devoted to my faith.  Your child will have a private education and since Jon is a wounded veteran of a foreign war, your child’s college is completely paid in full.

As Catholics, we do not believe in contraception, abortion or artificial creation.  Our marriage is a sacrament and within it, we hope to create life.  For the last two years we have been tracking my cycles and seeing an amazing doctor.  At this point, everything about my health is normal and he is not sure why I am not conceiving. 

Every night at dinner, we pray together.  We pray for a little buddy, as we call our future child.  I have accepted that I cannot explain all things.  I cannot expect answers for the desires of my heart that are not met.   Jon and I believe that we are meant to adopt a child to begin our family.  We will love and raise your child as our own and always will he know how blessed he is with the gift of his life that you gave to him. 

I suppose the only thing greater that I desire than my own motherhood, is for my mom to become a grandmother.  I have been her greatest joy since I was laid in her arms and I am beyond blessed to be her daughter. 

I have never been able to meet my birth mother.  I attempted twice, to which both times she stated she was not ready to meet me.  Since I have not been able to speak these words to her, I will place them on your heart.

Thank you for choosing my life; for having the courage to accept that your gift from God was to be shared with another.  You gave my mother the one thing she could never give herself.  You created a family.  You made parents of two hopeful people that longed so deeply to hold and raise a child.  I even look like my mother and I was probably spoiled as a child J  She taught me above all things to be kind, thoughtful and giving to others.  While I definitely have my faults, I always strive to be more like her every day.   For every moment that you think of me, think of my mother and how full her heart is with love and joy, for she could never have become my mother, without you.

That is how I am different from all other hopeful mothers.  I know first hand what it is like to live as an adopted child.  I believe in honesty above all things.  I am at your mercy, praying that you will entrust your child to my husband and myself to love as our own.  As a Christian first, please let me tell you that I do not claim to be all knowing or better than anyone else.  I am a sinner first and foremost.  Every day I pray to be less selfish, more giving and more devoted to Christ.  We will raise our children to be the same; to love others, accept them as they are and learn to grow in their faith.  I know that without the power of prayer, I would not be here today.  Someone prayed for me long before I was born and for that, I am eternally grateful.

Jon and I are pretty simple.  We enjoy cooking, spending time with our dogs, walking, watching movies, traveling for vacations (we have been to England, Hawaii, Mackinac Island) helping our parish, reading, restoring classic cars and furniture, art work and photography and hosting gatherings at our home.  We love to share our lives with others.

I hope this best depicts our life to you.  We are a hopeful couple, waiting for a birth mother, such as yourself to feel on her heart to bring us to parenthood.

I most graciously thank you with all my heart,

Heidi